What Would You Do?

You have two sons age 15 and 12. You do not feel comfortable leaving them home alone so you decide to have a close friend watch them. This friend needs a job so you pay her a few bucks to help her out. She would take them to the movies, park and play games with them. Unbeknownst to you the oldest child develops a crush. He starts to hit on the baby sitter.

What do you think she should do?

She starts to like your son as well. They kiss. They fool around. She gets pregnant. She tells you the good news. What do you do? How do you feel? What do you say?
They tell you they want to get married.

Is this a crime? Is this a sin? How should you react if you are a Christian? How should you react as a law abiding citizen?

This is a true cenario. I know the people to whom this happened. Their story is not unique. Unfortunately this is happening more and more these days. We read it daily in the headlines. Children's childhoods are being robbed from them. They are not being allowed to be innocent.

As parents we should prepare our response in case this happens to us. As Christians we should pray that the Lord will guide, protect and keep our children from all predators known and unknown.

“Girl I don’t know why I can’t leave him. He is a no good bum. I love him and I just can’t explain why. He doesn’t work. He is always drinking. He beats me and the kids. He’s not even committed to me. He is sleeping with Sally, Margaret and Janice. He thinks I don’t know but I do. Why am I still with him? Why can’t I leave him alone? I don’t know. He is just under my skin.”

Have you ever spoken these words? Do you know someone who is living this reality? Millions of women are in relationships that parallel the one described above. They are in it and they don’t know why. They are tolerating abusive treatment and feel like they have no choice. They are “in love.” But does love really have anything to do with it?

Women were created to be a help meet for men. They were told by God that their desire would be for their husbands. They were even equipped with a special hormone that would ensure bonding to their man. It is called oxytoxin.

Oxytoxin is a hormone that is released by women during childbirth, breastfeeding and orgasm. It can be also released during heavy petting, kissing or caressing. This hormone is nicknamed the “bonding” hormone. Why? Because its purpose is to bond the woman to whatever causes its release, the child or the husband.

Many women today believe that they are exercising their sexual freedom by sleeping with as many men as their heart desires. But is that true freedom? Or is it slavery? Are women being enslaved by lust? Are they being bonded to abusive relationships? Are they becoming like animals that follow their instincts or the scent of mating? Is that what freedom is all about?

Or could it be that women are free when they bond with one man as God designed it? Are women protected from getting into abusive relationships when they keep themselves covered (abstaining from sexual activities or those that could lead to sex: petting, kissing, hugging) as they discern the character of the man that they are dating.

Humans are different from animals in that they can think and reason. They have the ability to assess and change behavior based on logic. What does it say about us if we allow a hormone that is inappropriately released to ruin our lives and those of our children? What does it say about us if oxytoxin bonds us to a man that is worthless as a provider, protector, father, or mate?

Women, remember that you were created to be a queen to be honored, cherished and adored. If the way you’ve been living enslaved you rather then freed you try Gods way. Wait for your husband as chosen by God. Then let the oxytoxin flow through the boarders of your marriage overflowing your banks.

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